I never thought I would be writing about not liking or hating cunnilingus, glorious pussy-eating. There is nothing I’d rather be doing at this very moment than eating pussy but here I am, I must write this article. To be honest, I heard a story once in college many years ago about a man who did not enjoy cunnilingus, found cunnilingus disgusting. I was having a conversation with a friend when he told me that he used to work with this older gentleman, who was in his seventies, with whom he had gotten to be pretty friendly. We will call the older gentleman Ciriaco. Every morning, Ciriaco would share some of his coffee along with a piece of a ham, egg, and cheese sandwich with Alonso. As they ate their sandwiches and drank black coffee, they would laugh and have a good time as they exchanged stories. My friend Alonso commented that Ciriaco was a good storyteller.
One morning, as they were eating their breakfast, they were swapping stories, and carrying on. The one morning, when my friend Alonso decided to tell Ciriaco about a great sex experience he had over the weekend, was to him the most memorable. He had just started to tell his story but Ciriaco interrupted. Ciriaco tried to one-up Alonso by quickly recounting a sexual escapade he had had perhaps thirty or forty years prior. Guys do this, sometimes we need to come up with a better story to “win” the conversation. Alonso listened and gave Ciriaco his “that’s alright” handshake at the end of his story. He only shared non-specific details about Ciriaco’s story.
So, Alonso was able to continue telling his story a few minutes later. Ciriaco raised an eyebrow as he listened to Alonso recount his sexy story. At one point, Alonso was telling Ciriaco about how he fingered this young woman’s cunt and performed cunnilingus on her until she had an explosive orgasm. He told Ciriaco that his face was covered with the young lady’s pussy juice. Ciriaco was not amused or aroused but instead totally disgusted by the story and told Alonso he felt like puking. The next thing that happened was that Ciriaco got up, collected his items, and walked away. That was the last time Alonso and Ciriaco shared sandwiches and black coffee.
I listened to Alonso tell this story and was very surprised because to this point, I had never heard of any man disliking cunnilingus before. My friend’s story taught me that men’s dislike for cunnilingus is not that uncommon, yet one more thing humans get to exercise — preference, in favor or against something in particular. When you think about it, you figure this is just one of those things about being human — we have preferences, we like or dislike stuff. Some of us like blue, some of us like red. Some of us like chicken, some of us prefer steak. Some of us prefer a woman’s pussy, but some of us love some pussy, followed by some ass. Some of us expect pussy to smell like flowers but most men I know love it when pussy smells like pussy. Some of us will go as far as to sniff our women’s panties. Preferences. Preferences.
I am sure we all have heard of men who do not enjoy cunnilingus and some of you might be reading this piece. A lot of us hear about this aversion second hand; either by a friend of a friend or even a very disappointed wife or girlfriend. Since my early days as a cunnilinguist, I’ve read multiple articles describing men’s aversion to cunnilingus. You see, what’s surprising to me is not that some men dislike cunnilingus but the phrase people keep repeating in this world of over 7.5 billion people, those in favor of cunnilingus chanting, “I don’t understand why some men don’t love it.” Why can’t you understand that some people simply don’t like it? Don’t we all communicate and exercise our preferences every single day? On the other side of this coin are the men who don’t like cunnilingus, stating that they “don’t understand why some men say they love it.” Again people, preferences. Preferences.
Researchers from the Center for Sexual Health Promotion (CSHP) in Indiana University’s School of Health conducted “The National Survey of Sexual Health and Behavior” (NSSHB) in October of 2010. This report is seven years old already but in it, Indiana University scientists reported that they believed the new findings provided an updated and much needed snapshot of contemporary Americans’ sexual behaviors then. The NSSHB is one of the most comprehensive studies on these topics in almost two decades and documents the sexual experiences and condom-use behaviors of 5,865 adolescents and adults ages 14 to 94.
In looking at the “Sexual Behavior Graph” in the published paper, if you compare the number of women who reported having received oral from a man and the men who reported having performed cunnilinugs on a woman, one can gather that the numbers are not too far off. It has been reported that, men — especially older men — give as much oral sex to women as women give to men. This is what I really want to stress — there are two groups of people, one in favor and one against cunnilingus. Many people are indifferent, don’t like, or hate cunnilingus, while many tolerate, like, or love cunnilingus.
Historically, men have made all kinds of statements as their reasons for hating cunnilingus. Some statements sound funny and some sound too harsh for my taste but we must respect everyone’s reasons. Here are some of said statements:
* It never really appealed to me
* I find my fingers work well in that regard and that oral sex isn’t imperative
* Some girls just have death coming from their coochies in the form of a rancid effluvium
* I don’t find vaginas really appealing
* I really don’t like the smell or taste
* I don’t mind it, but I don’t find it attractive or arousing
* I justified my lack of willingness to go down on girls because I felt it was just like putting your mouth on a toilet seat
* Pussies are so wet and sloppy
Again, those who dislike cunnilingus should be able to express their preference without fear of shame from those of us who love cunnilingus. Sexual shaming of any kind is unacceptable. We must rebuke sexual shaming. It seems like people expect others to respect their choices but insist on disrespecting people who don’t share their own. What is wrong with us? We really should expect people to behave better but again, in a world with population exceeding 7.5 billion people, a few million people will behave badly. No, difference in opinion is not disrespect, shaming those with opinions different from your own is disrespect. We need to remember that each human body is different, no two women are the same, share the same sexual desire, or enjoy the same stimuli. We all should be free to express our sexual preferences without fear of shaming.
Respectfully,
Jou
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