There is a notable difference between good cunnilinguists, good pussy eaters, and the guys or gals who lick pussy without much contact, with the tip of their tongues only, the “lizard tongue” pussy lickers. This type of cunnilinguists or pussy lickers seem to be afraid of the beautiful pussy and its delicious juice. Where did they learn to do that, did they learn it from porn? Friends, please remember that most of what you see depicted in porn is not real sex, it’s acting, and most of the time bad acting. Have you ever noticed that what porn actors and actresses do is always for the camera? They rarely get really involved, they are acting most of the time. Anyway, a lot of cunnilingus enthusiasts have not caught on with the idea that you can’t be a good pussy eater if you insist in imitating what you see in porn. Again, actors in porn lick pussy with their tongues sticking out of their mouths so the viewer can see what’s happening and not at all concerned with what feels best for her. Why are you afraid, why don’t you want contact with her juice, her nectar, her honey? What are these people afraid of, how the pussy looks, her scent, her taste? I resist to believe the issue is the way it looks, the pussy scent, or its delicious taste.
I have heard of many men who expect pussy not to have a smell and even some who expect pussy to smell like flowers, just like they hear on TV. I have also heard of some men who truly don’t know what to expect, they don’t know how pussy is supposed to smell or taste like. I am here to tell you all that pussy should smell and taste like pussy, my friends. Pussy produces secretions that have a great aroma, if you ask me. If a person is lucky enough to have his or her face near a woman’s vagina when she’s excited, one can smell her delicious excitement aroma.
In regards to pussy taste, many men don’t like it, many don’t know how its supposed to taste, but a lot of us find pussy taste delicious. I have heard some horrible pussy taste comparisons when you ask people about pussy taste. Again, pussy tastes best when it tastes like pussy, there is no need to “mask” pussy taste. Of course, if pussy has a health issue, it might smell or taste like “something is not right,” otherwise pussy smells and tastes delicious, divine. A note on taste folks; aroma accounts for roughly 80% of what we perceive as flavor… So, when pussy smells great, it tastes even better.
My friend, you cannot be squeamish about pussy-eating. Enthusiasm here is indeed a requirement, you must show enthusiasm. You need to eat pussy like a ripe peach, a juicy mango, or half a juice-dripping papaya; put your face into it, eat pussy like you mean it. You need to put your face against her vulva, open your mouth wide so your tongue can work on the entire area. You have to “give her face,” make out with her pussy, kiss her pussy as if it was the last time you were going to kiss it. You should kiss her pussy the same way you passionately French kiss your woman. You should kiss her pussy the way you savor her lips, the way you suck on her tongue, explore her willing and deserving pussy. In my opinion, your tongue should not be sticking out of your mouth, your tongue should not be visible. Remember, this is what you see in porn and the reason for “lizzard-lick” her pussy has very little to do with your woman’s pleasure.
Actors in porn do this on screen purposely; to make the act hotter for the viewer but it’s not the right thing to do, please do not do it this way. You have to cover the entire pussy with your mouth and lick the whole pussy like a papaya. Yes, concentrated effort on her clit is what will in the end bring her to mind-blowing, “close your eyes and see God” kind of orgasms and believe me, this is what works best in most cases. Many women complain about the “lizard tongue” pussy lickers. Well, many women complain that some men cannot even find a woman’s clit… It has also been reported that even many women are not able to locate their own clit but that is entirely another story, material for a new article. Anyway, someone suggested the name “Squeamish Clit Lickers…” And yet, some women have reported to like the lizard tongue. Go figure. 🙂
I understand that we all do this differently but I thought I would share some of what I do. I feel I must tell you all that I have not been successful to assist every woman I’ve engaged with sexually to orgasm. I have tried my best but sadly, I have not succeeded every time. Some women can experience an orgasm with minimal effort, while others do require a lot of effort and yet, some are not able to experience orgasms from oral stimulation regardless of what you do. Of course, there are also women who cannot experience orgasms, period. Also, I would like to reference a phrase you hear a lot: “every woman is different.” I feel that some men think they deserve a prize because they’re aware that every woman is different and I get the feeling some have no other knowledge beyond this fact. Yes, please, tell me something I don’t know. Please, expound this topic.
So, anyway, the way I do it is by concentrating slow tiny controlled circular movements around her clit, never out of control licking. Speed and intensity varies upon her feedback as she might want stimulation to be slower or faster, light or more intense at any given point. Please, no crazy flicking unless that’s what your lady likes. I have found that many women do get annoyed by the frantic, uncontrolled flicking. Though I do lick the entrance to her vagina sticking my tongue as deep as I can and pretty much lick her whole vulva often, some women report that they would rather have continuous clitoral stimulation. Again, even when I’ve been blessed by the fact that a particular woman does enjoy to have her vaginal opening and her labia licked, I never stay away from her clit more than a couple of seconds, always returning to the rhythmic “moan generating” stimulation. Remember that an orgasm is the product of accumulated stimulation directly applied to the clitoral head and/or indirectly through the vaginal walls, for example, which spreads through the entire clitoral complex. I know for a fact that the “clitoral complex” term might be new for some, so I will try to explain here.
Both women and men are surprised to learn that there is more to the clitoris than the little or large “button” under the clitoral hood. Many report that they thought that this rosebud-shaped knob under the clitoral hood alone was responsible for a woman’s orgasm, like an “orgasm switch”. The fact is that what we see is only the visible tip of an amazing 8,000 nerve-endings complex, called the internal clitoris or clitoral complex. For decades, we thought that the clitoris was a “mini-penis.” Of course, this comparison is a sign that patriarchy is still alive. It wasn’t until the late nineties that the female urologist Helen O’Connell, M.D., figured the real shape and size of the clitoral complex while dissecting cadavers. Dr. O’Connell published her work, “The Anatomy of the Clitoris,” in 1998. This paper proved that even doctors and scientists believed that the clitoris was just another simple piece of anatomy.
I thought that the fact that the clitoral complex gets stimulated during penile penetration of the vagina was common knowledge but I have received evidence to the contrary; this knowledge is still not as common as it should be. The internal, much larger portion of the clitoris gets stimulated by penile or dildo thrusting through the vaginal walls. Friends, you cannot expect that her clitoral complex will be appropriately stimulated after two, three, or five minutes of fucking or wild dildo jamming. Some women report that they require clitoral stimulation in excess of seven, ten, fifteen, thirty minutes, or longer, in order to achieve an orgasm. This is a process that requires much patience in many cases. Here is where lasting longer in bed helps us dudes.
Since I love to spend a lot of time fucking, my lovers have reported that they are always in a plateau or pre-orgasmic state. I like to fuck for ten to fifteen minutes at a time, always followed by a pussy-eating session, where a lover may achieve usually one, two, or sometimes three orgasms. My preference is to repeat the cycle multiple times as I love to have sex for no less than one hour and for up to two, three, or four hours, depending on horniness or time available. One would be lucky to find such a partner. My lover’s orgasms are always very intense and often very violent and doesn’t matter how many she has had or how late it is, if she wants one more, my tongue is never tired. Again, she always tells me if the next orgasm is unlikely but sometimes I’m able to get one more orgasm out of her. Communication between us does the trick.
I need to make a note on the external portion of the clitoris, or what we refer to as the clitoris’ size and its accessibility. Many clitorises, regardless of size, are sometimes covered by a delicious slightly larger hood. You need to discuss with your lady, the owner of such a beautiful and delicious clitoris, how does she prefer to have it stimulated. In my experience, many women do not want or like direct clitoral stimulation, therefore not requiring us to “uncover” her clit for stimulation. In my experience, proper direct stimulation her clitoral hood and the area all around her clit without need to get your tongue under her clitoral hood usually suffices to properly “brew” her orgasm. If your lady likes direct clitoral stimulation, then, by all means stimulate her the way she prefers. We should never assume, always ask or test a particular technique being very watchful of her reaction.
Why do I eat pussy? I eat pussy mostly because I care a lot about a woman’s pleasure but I also eat pussy because its appearance, I love its scent, and I love its taste; I love to eat pussy. Of course, my lover tells me that she has the best orgasms by way of cunnilingus and it makes both of us happy. The goal of cunnilingus between my lover and I is always orgasm. I am not the guy who licks a woman’s pussy with the only purpose of making her wet or just as foreplay so I can quickly stick my dick in her. I eat her pussy because we both love the act and love it when she comes. She has no issue with orgasms, she cums easily from cunnilingus. The caveat is that sometimes she has had experienced many orgasms and will require a bit of rest because her clit “is tired…” Some lovers don’t cum at all and I feel this needs discussion. A woman may face some type of anorgasmia, yet enjoy cunnilingus immensely. Again, a frank conversation is in order. My lover knows that there is never any pressure to orgasm and she also has the awareness that as long as she feels it will happen, my tongue will continue its job for as long as it takes. I’ve played a wind instrument for over 30 years and my tongue can go the distance. I must mention that I always do open my mouth wide enough to have my bottom lip against the opening of her vagina and feel her pussy pulsating, deliciously massaging my lip when she comes.
I must add a disclaimer here. I am not suggesting that everyone should use the techniques I describe herein as the only way to successful and pleasurable cunnilingus. I will say though, that it has worked better than all other techniques with most women, either by itself, applying variations, or combined with other techniques. One technique I have employed with former lovers is to do it in sets of two, one orgasm by way of clockwise circles and counterclockwise for the second, just to add a little variety. If a particular lover doesn’t enjoy this technique, I can adjust and stimulate her clit in the way she prefers. I have found that pussy both smells and tastes delicious, fabulous, glorious, not to forget how gorgeous cunts are. Eating pussy is what I’d rather be doing every hour of every day because a woman’s orgasms are so awesome. When their orgasms are very intense and often very violent, I feed from that energy. I love “assisting” her experience as many orgasms as she cares to have. My own pleasure feeds from her pleasure; her orgasms energize me.
I guess this is also a great time to discuss cunnilingus while she is on her period, cunnilingus and other sex activity during menstruation. I first have to say that this is not for everyone, it’s an acquired taste. Period sex is loved by many but there is a large group of both men and women who are not keen to this practice. As a man who earned his Red Wings decades ago, menstruation is not something that stops my lover and I from having the only sex we know how to have — great sex. We often have some of the hottest sex while she is menstruating. Honestly, my bed often looks like a murder scene but the pleasure always makes up for the mess. I usually protect my bed by laying down dark color towels on the bed, my towels are black. Other than protecting the sheets and mattress, we don’t deviate from “the script;” we fuck and suck for two or three hours. Yes, I do love to eat that pussy and it’s no different whether she’s menstruating or not. Well, I do taste some blood and get a bloody chin but will never let that stop me.
Period sex is sometimes messier than others but always great. I can’t say I’m really into the blood itself but I am though really into cunnilingus and the fact that my woman might be on her period is by no means an impediment. Women are always a bit self-conscious because of the amount of blood the penis seems to suction out of her while fucking but I always do my best to put women at ease as dealing with the blood is never a real problem. I do realize it takes a different type of partner for period sex; takes trust, patience, and understanding. Period sex is not something I take for granted. I understand a lot of women won’t even let you see them in that “state” and having sex while having her period is not something the majority of women do. What we have found or as some women tell me, their cycle seems shorter when we fuck a lot during their periods.
And as a reminder, my friends, when your lady is close to climax, do not, I repeat, do not stop or change course as any noticeable change in what you’re doing can indeed derail her orgasm and throw her into “orgasmus interruptus.” 🙂 The time when her breathing gets heavier, quicker; that time when she gets a fistful of bed sheets; the time when she starts to shake, she starts to scream, or both. This is the time to ensure steady stimulation — do not try to reposition yourself between her legs because your neck hurts, for example. You are within a few feet of the finish line and at this point you must put forth your best effort, help your woman get over the orgasmic threshold. You both want this, you both need this, failure is not an option. It must be said that if you like to suck her clit or vulva, don’t just suck her clit as if you wanted to remove it from her body but instead suck a larger area of her vulva softly, increasing intensity and gauging her enjoyment. Many women complain about men sucking their clits in a way that turns them off.
Please don’t be offended if at any point while you’re delivering the best performance of your sexual existence, your partner is forced to instruct you: “a bit to the left,” “a bit to the right,” “harder,” or “softer,” or even if she removes your finger from her pussy or her asshole. What this means is that your tongue has somehow shifted and is not quite hitting the spot or she’s no longer enjoying your finger inside her pussy or asshole as much as you are… Some women report that their clits shift position also. I am also reminded that sometimes what we have to listen for is either verbal communication or body language which states that she has had enough. Let me take this opportunity to promote some good books on this delicious and pleasurable subject: Come as You Are, She Comes First, Ultimate Guide to Cunnilingus, Clitoral Truth. These books should be read by not only women but men who are invested in their partners’ sexual pleasure.
Also ladies and gents, stop telling the women in your lives that they have ugly pussies, telling your woman that she’s too loose, her pussy is too “old,” or that her clit is too small or too big. You might also want to stop telling your lover that her pussy is too hairy or the opposite, that it doesn’t look good bald; this is 100% her prerogative. She is entitled to sport a bush, trim it, or shave all of her pubic hair, it is after all, her pussy. One more thing, do not shame a woman because she has large labia or that her labia somehow doesn’t fit your standard.
Though people have a right not to like it; I love large labia. I mean, I love all labia, big and small. I love sucking my woman’s labia and might even nibble a bit from time-to-time. Do not shame women for this. Doing these things show your ignorance about women’s bodies and it is your own sexual inadequacy speaking, you don’t own her body. Don’t be an asshole, don’t be a dick, treat your woman with kindness and respect. Yes, pussies must be eaten, they’re beautiful and fragrant. I didn’t want to close without mentioning that it is true; not all women enjoy cunnilingus. There are some who will indulge you, some like it but don’t experience orgasms as result of, and some women do hate it or find it painful. Please remember this. Stop chanting the “it baffles me that a woman doesn’t like cunnilingus” crap. Don’t be an idiot, inform yourself, do some research.
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